Reader Question:
I found this wonderful lady. We dropped crazy and things had been great. Ultimately she along with her daughter relocated in with me and my personal child.
I texted an other woman who was merely a platonic friend. Whenever she saw I texted an other woman, she freaked-out. She remained in my own straight back bedroom for an entire week and refused to allow me to speak with this lady.
She next fell the “Why don’t we just be buddies” bomb on me personally. She however lives beside me and that I’m really a lot obsessed about this lady.
What can I do?
-James (Ca)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
Dear James,
I have to be honest. You moved too quickly and uprooted the physical lives of two innocent youngsters.
And now you have uncovered your brand new really love features actually poor conflict quality skills, if not a personality ailment. Stonewalling could be the unmarried best predictor of divorce proceedings.
My personal advice: different and seek household counseling to suit your daughter therefore. Just in case the girl desires even a friendship along with you, you should insist she seek advising along with you to understand some healthier communication designs.
This can be an original chance to model some healthier habits for your kids. Getting a doormat for this lady cannot draw in her love straight back. Grow a backbone and put the youngsters’ needs first.
If she doesn’t admire that, then she does not need your love.
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